Sometimes being in a relationship is tough. There are a lot of hard things that happen in relationships. Thankfully, they can also teach you quite a few things. As someone in a relationship, I often see people who wish they were in a relationship too. They are tired of being single and want someone they can spend time with. While this is normal, I am afraid that they may not realize how tough being in a relationship can actually be sometimes. In this post, I am going to share five things I wish my single friends new.
1. Dating is tough
Y’all, dating can be hard sometimes, and it is definitely not all hugs and kisses. When you’re dating someone, you no longer have to worry about just you. Now, you also care about someone else and their feelings. Disagreements are bound to happen in any relationship. This means that in order for both of you to be happy, you have to be willing to compromise. Relationships may look glorious from the outside, but we are all still growing and learning about each other.
When you’re single, however, you only have to worry about yourself. There is no one there who’s feelings you might hurt. Instead, you get to do things the way you want them every time.
I’m not saying that having a boyfriend means that you get bossed around all the time (uhm, no thanks!). I’m just saying that in a relationship you have to be willing to work together. That often means making compromises.
2. Dating takes a lot of time
This is definitely a big one. When you are in a relationship, you often spend a lot of time together. This means that you will probably have less time for your studies, your friends, alone time, and more. Not that having a boyfriend pulls you away from all of these things on purpose, but sometimes it just happens because you want to spend time together! When you’re single, however, you get to spend all of this time learning more about you! Take advantage of that ladies! If you think about it, you only have so much time to be single. Then, you’ll end up being with someone for the rest of your life!
3. Don’t try to turn Mr. Wrong into Mr. Right
One of the biggest things that I wish my single friends knew was to not try to make every guy into Mr. Right. This is definitely something that I used to do before I met Jordan. I would have a crush on a guy and end up visualizing him into the perfect man of my dreams. Doing this clouded my vision of who this guy really was, so it made it hard for me to see his flaws and realize that this guy wasn’t for me at all!
My suggestion for you single girls is to stop looking for a guy. When you do, you will stop trying to make every guy perfect for you and can stop dating the wrong guys altogether. Don’t settle, my friend. You deserve the absolute best! So, don’t waste your time with someone who doesn’t treat you the way you should be treated! The right guy will show up when the time is right and when you least expect it!
4. Take advantage of the time that you have
When you are single, you have all of the time in the world! You can hang out with your friends whenever you want, study as much as you need to, enjoy a little me time, and so much more! Being single gives you time to learn more about who you are and what you like! Take advantage of this opportunity! Try to grow and enjoying this time of your life. It only lasts for so long!
Being in a relationship isn’t going to happen all at once. Take advantage of your free time now. Your time will come! Just be patient, my friend.
5. Please, be happy for me
This is a hard one for me to share. Sometimes when you’re in a relationship and you’re around people who are single, if you even mention your boyfriend, you automatically get a “well, at least you have a boyfriend.” My friend, this hurts. We don’t like to show it, but it does. Sometimes, your friends who are in a relationship wish you would just encourage them. Please, don’t hit us with negativity and bitterness. Our relationships are important to us so we like to talk about them, that’s all. Trust me, we want you to be happy both as a single woman and in the future when you do find the right guy! Please, show us that you’re happy for us too!
As you can see, being in a relationship is a lot of work! Although it has a ton of positives, it also has a few downsides. So, my advice to you single ladies, is to make the most of the time that you have now! Don’t waste it by obsessing over getting a boyfriend! Instead, take this time in your life as an opportunity to grow and learn more about who you are and what you like! Your future self with thank you for making this a special time in your life! Your time for a boyfriend will come before you know it, and I hope you find someone who treats you well and makes you feel as happy as Jordan makes me.
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