For this post, I gathered seven of my favorite college bloggers and asked them to share their best college relationship advice. This advice could cover anything from your relationship with your friends, your professors, your parents, and even your boyfriend. I can’t wait to show you what they’ve learned about relationships during their college career! I know that these tips will help you throughout your college years as well!
I’ve learned in college that any relationship requires effort and dedication on your part, whether it is a friend, professor, or significant other. Everyone becomes so busy so quickly. Without a conscious effort to keep important people in your life, it is easy for them to slip away. If you truly care about someone, make sure you take the time to see them and ask them about what’s going on in their lives; it could make all the difference between a lifetime friend and one that just faded away.
Throughout college, I’ve learned that every relationship, romantic or friendship, has rough patches. The closest of friends and significant others fight because there is something at stake. That being said, the long-term success of those relationships is directly related to how well you can manage and overcome those instances of conflict.
I’ve learned during college that it’s important to have a relationship with yourself. This may sound really self-centered, but hear me out. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love others. And loving others and having relationships is important.
College is a time to find yourself and figure out who you are… not just who you want to be in terms of career, but who you want to be mentally, physically, and spiritually. Basically, love yourself so that you can love others.
I went into college with a long distance relationship. We were dating in high school and decided on different colleges, but we wanted to make it work. Most LDRs (especially in college) don’t really make it through but my boyfriend and I will be celebrating two years tomorrow. The most important thing I’ve learned about LDRs in college is about communication and understanding. I always expected him to text me throughout the day, but we were both so busy all the time that it just wasn’t able to happen, and it would upset me. We quickly learned about balance and effective communication (FaceTime over texting, etc.) If you want to learn more about how we do this, I wrote a post about it here!
I’ve recently realized that you cannot have expectations for relationships that you don’t put the effort into. Expectations are generally pretty negative (when they are too high). What makes things difficult is when you are expecting the other to prove they still want the relationship but you have given up on it. This goes for all relationships. For example: I was upset with a relative for never keeping in touch when I stopped trying to reach out to her. Things got better between us when I realized that I have to do my part before expecting her to do hers. So I guess what I’m really saying is that I finally learned the true meaning of “relationships are a two-way street.”
College is an amazing time to meet people and make lifelong friendships. Whenever I become close with someone new, I keep this phrase in mind: you become a combination of the five people you spend the most time with. I love meeting people who have different ideas, opinions, and beliefs than I do, but I always make sure that the people I’m closest to are the sort of people who inspire me to be better: kinder, more generous, and more loving. If you make sure the people you’re closest to reflect who you want to be, your relationships will be richer and you’ll be the better for it!
-Sara of Sarah Laughed and College Compass
Forget about #relationshipgoals – just forget about them! Whether you’re online or off, the last thing you need to be doing is comparing your relationship to other people’s. Back in high school, one of my best friend’s boyfriends let it slip that he thought it was a “competition” between me and Ryan, and the two of them, over who could be the cuter couple. I never saw it that way, but needless to say, our friendship was never the same after that. To me, it just isn’t worth jeopardizing your relationships with close friends – or your relationship with your significant other – to live up to some hashtag on Instagram. So, just remember: what people post about online, or the way they act around their closest friends in person, says NOTHING about the quality of their relationship when they’re alone together!
Also on the note of #relationshipgoals, when I first went away to college, I felt self-conscious about being in an LDR when so many girls I knew were breaking up with their boyfriends from home. I even felt self-conscious about the fact that I was in a committed relationship because so many of my friends were “just hooking up.”
All those negative influences took a tremendous toll on me as a first-semester freshman. Even though I felt committed to Ryan, I started to wonder if I wasn’t “supposed” to be in a relationship in college and if I was just holding onto it because it was a reminder from home. In the end, though, that wasn’t up for magazines, social media or even my friends to decide for me – staying with Ryan through college is 100% my decision, and even if it’s not the typical college experience, in the long run, I feel that it is worth it.
Put simply, there are no universal #relationshipgoals that are going to make every girl happy. So, don’t get caught up in what other couples/friends are doing or what you’re “supposed” to do, and focus on what feels right to YOU!
I hope that you enjoyed reading these amazing relationship tips! Be sure to visit each of these wonderful young ladies blogs by clicking on the name below each comment!
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