If you have visited AsLifeGrows before, then you probably know that I am currently in a thirteen-hour long distance relationship. I live in Arkansas while my boyfriend Jordan lives in Virginia (he is currently attending a college eight hours away). Jordan and I met when he came to my college in Arkansas; however, after only a month of dating, Jordan found out that he was going to have to transfer to a college back home. Although this was devastating for us at the time, we have found ways to keep our long distance relationship incredibly strong. If you are currently in a long distance relationship or if you are about to enter one, here are a few things that Jordan and I have found to be important in keeping our long distance relationship healthy and happy!
1. Always make time for each other
When you are in a long distance relationship, it is so important to always make time for each other. Whether that is through a phone call, goofy snapchats, face timing, or skipping out on movie night with the girls every once in a while, your fella’ needs to know that he is high on your priority list. I don’t know about you, but I never want Jordan to feel like he is unimportant to me. To keep this from happening, I always try to give him my full attention when we talk. During busy weeks, I have attempted to multitask with Jordan on the phone, but I have always found that I just couldn’t give him the attention that he deserves. So, now, I put my computer away and make it a point to pay attention to what he is saying.
2. Always keep communicating
I cannot imagine a time when ladies would have to wait months to get a single precious letter from their fella’s. Thanks to smartphones, maintaining almost constant communication is so much easier. Although it is important to communicate in all relationships, I believe that it is even more important in long distance relationships because you don’t have the luxury of seeing your boyfriend throughout the day. Instead, you get little snippets of their lives through texting, calling, snapchatting, and facetiming. So, although I wouldn’t recommend texting non-stop every single day, I think you should definitely learn to communicate well with each other through texting, calling, etc. My best suggestion is to find out what works for you guys and stick to it! Jordan and I have a routine of sending each other a sweet good morning text, texting and snap chatting regularly throughout the day, then calling and face timing every night before we go to sleep.
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3. Do special things for each other
Since it is difficult to see each other often in a long distance relationship, Jordan and I have found ways to do special things for each other during the months we are apart. Getting something special from Jordan once a month is a great way to make him feel close to me. Sometimes, he will send me an encouraging letter in the mail, sometimes it’s a gift box, and sometimes it’s spending the time and money to come visit me. Including these extra things into your long distance relationship makes the distance feel much easier.
4. Take turns visiting each other
When you are in a long distance relationship, it is so important to take the time to visit each other. For some, this may be once a month. For others, this can happen only every few months. No matter how far apart each visit is, it’s important to plan visits so you and your fella’ can begin looking forward to seeing each other. Jordan and I love counting down the days using a countdown app on our phones! Watching those days go by makes us more and more excited for the day we finally get to see each other!
5. Enjoy every moment
When you’re in a long-distance relationship, it is important to remember to enjoy every moment that you have together. Try not to think of how short the time will be. Instead, make the trips unforgettable by going on a few of your bucket list dates! (Check out mine and Jordan’s couples bucket list ideas here!) Having unique things to do while you are together helps give each trip fantastic memories to keep your love strong while you are apart!
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These are all things that have made mine and Jordan’s long distance relationship so much easier. As a matter of fact, we have been doing this whole long distance thing much longer than we dated in person. If I’m being totally honest with you, some days, long distance just sucks. Luckily, Jordan makes it absolutely worth it. Although long distance relationships aren’t for everyone, I believe that if both people put in the time and effort, they can make it work. So, if you are in a long distance relationship, I hope these tips help keep your relationship happy, healthy, and strong!
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