Disagreements are bound to happen in relationships. Unfortunately, that’s just part of life. Arguments, however, can and should be avoided. What’s the difference you ask? Arguments automatically have a negative connotation. Disagreements, on the other hand, are less hurtful and allow for more communication, cooperation, and compromise. In this post, I am going to be explaining three reasons why you should never argue in a relationship. I will also share what you should do instead of arguing.
1. Arguments weaken the relationship
The first reason why you shouldn’t argue in a relationship is because no one ever wins an argument. There is always going to be someone who gets hurt, feels misunderstood, and is unhappy with the outcome. In an argument, no conflicts are solved and both sides feel cut down. This creates distance in the relationship.
In a disagreement, however, both sides are able to calmly and logically speak their mind. This means that a compromise can be made. Doing this keeps feelings from getting hurt while also creating a more positive outcome for both. Everyone ends on a happy note!
2. Arguments hurt
Another reason why you shouldn’t argue in a relationship is because arguments hurt. Often, these arguments are emotion driven instead of logic driven. This means that both people may end up saying rude, painful, and unkind things. Arguing often tends to be mean, loud, and selfish.
Disagreements, on the other hand, can be done in a calm and collected manner. Instead of yelling, both sides can talk through their feelings. This once again can lead to compromise and a happy ending to the disagreement!
3. Arguing is the opposite of listening
Listening is a big part of any relationship. Usually, in an argument, both sides are failing to listen to the other. Instead, they are yelling in an attempt to get their point across. This is never helpful. Because no one is trying to listen to the others point of view, no compromise can be made.
Instead, I would suggest making an effort to listen to what the other person is saying. Then, repeat back what you heard in order to make sure that you understood correctly. If you are listening effectively, you should be able to understand how the other person is feeling and can make a compromise more quickly.
4. What to do instead of arguing
As I’ve mentioned, instead of calling it an argument, I would suggest using the word disagreement. This word has a better connotation and helps you keep a clear perspective. I would also recommend working hard to listen to both sides of the story. Take your time to talk things through and understand how each other feels. Keep your emotions in check and avoid yelling at all times. Then, be willing to compromise. This will help you work things out effectively.
As you can see, arguing can be very dangerous to your relationship. However, there are things that you can do in order to work things out! I hope this post encourages you to stop arguing and start working through your disagreements instead!
What do you do instead of arguing in a relationship? Help others by sharing your best tip below!
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