Today I want to share something with you that has drastically improved my relationship with my boyfriend Jordan. While this isn’t one of those, “Have a happy relationship in three days” type of things, it is definitely something that improved how Jordan and I relate to each other.
Jordan and I knew that we were going to have a serious relationship from the start. So, around six months into our relationship, Jordan bought us a book called, “The Five Love Languages.” (Yes, this is an affiliate link.) This book is an absolute must for those who are in serious relationships, engaged, or even married because it teaches readers to love your partner in a way that he understands love.
“The Five Love Languages” starts out by telling readers what happens to love after marriage. Why have so many couples been happy dating then end up getting divorced a year down the road? The book then explains the concept of a “love tank.” This may sound strange, but it is actually a great way to explain how loved a person is feeling. Jordan and I read this book months ago, and he still asks me if my love tank is full.
The book then shares with readers the five different love languages that a person can have and how that language makes them feel most loved. Each chapter then goes into teaching readers how to share love to each other by using the love language that relates best with them. There are five different ways that people can receive love, that is through words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. So, although you may think you are sharing your love with them by doing things for them (such as washing dishes or taking out the trash), they may receive love through quality time. So, instead, you should focus more on having good one-on-one time with them instead.
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Once you have learned about each of the love languages and have discovered which language is yours, the book goes into teaching that love is something couples must choose daily. It also shares with readers how love makes the difference in our lives. Then, it enters the touchy subject of how to love the unlovely.
I think that this book has had such a huge impact on the way that Jordan and I relate to each other. Honestly, I believe we would have many more frustrated conversations if I didn’t understand his love language and if he didn’t understand mine. So, if you have heard about this book and are hesitant to purchase it, don’t be! It seriously is a great investment in your relationship. If you do decide to purchase this incredible book, let me know in the comments! I would love to hear how it helps you!
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